During a recent Weverse livestream, BTS’s RM opened up about societal expectations surrounding marriage and having children — especially the pressures many women face in modern society.
His candid reflections quickly drew widespread praise from Korean netizens, with some even joking that he should run for president one day.
RM shared that he believes many people feel pushed into marriage by societal norms and media portrayals rather than making the decision for themselves.
“When it comes to marriage, I think a lot of people feel pressured — both by reality and by society,” he said. “Especially women, since there’s constant pressure from the media and people around them about having kids or other responsibilities. It feels like we’re all being forced into a mold. I just wish people could live life at their own pace. There’s no single right answer.”
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He went on to explain that being comfortable with solitude is an important part of building healthy relationships.
“If someone can’t handle being alone, will marriage really fix that? Even when you’re married, there are still moments when you want to be alone — that’s human nature. People who are comfortable being by themselves can often be better partners when they’re with someone. Choosing marriage just to escape loneliness… I’m not sure that’s the right way.”
The BTS leader also touched on his thoughts about parenthood, admitting that the idea of raising children feels daunting to him.
“As for having kids — I really don’t know. It’s already hard enough taking care of myself,” he said with a laugh. “Raising another life isn’t something that goes the way you want it to. Kids have their own personalities. When I think about how much trouble I gave my parents growing up, I can’t help but think, ‘What if I have a kid like me?’ Of course I’d love them, but it’d be tough.”
RM concluded by saying that there’s no universal answer when it comes to marriage or family.
“People who are married speak from that experience, and those who aren’t can only speak from theirs. Neither side fully understands the other, and that’s okay. Our generation — those born in the ’90s — might be the first in Korea to really see marriage as an option rather than an expectation. So I think we should all just follow our own choices.”
🐨 결혼에 대해서 쫒기고 현실적인 부분도 있고 특히 여성분들은 아이나 여러가지 문제로 사회나 미디어가 계속 프레셔를 주는거 같은데 우리한테 압박을 주는거 같은데 그냥 자기 쪼대로 살았으면 좋겠어요. 정답은 없는거 같아요. 그냥 제가 생각했을 때 결국 혼자있는 시간을 이렇게 잘 못견디면… pic.twitter.com/akqyfeXBna
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Netizens quickly responded to his words, with many praising his maturity and honesty.
- “When he gets older, he should just run for president. That’s definitely the right path for him.”
- “Yeah, same here. It’s already hard enough just taking care of myself; getting married and having kids would be even harder.”
- “Seriously. Getting married just because you’re lonely is so dangerous.”
- “That’s so cool.”
- “As expected of a true leader.”
